Just engaged male, Need advice on wedding arrangements???

I just recently became engaged, I am 24 and have never been married....I have to admit I already feeling the pressure and stress of wedding planning and I have no idea where to start...





My fiance and I are planning on having the wedding in a friends back yard. We are on a tight budget as we%26#039;re both planning on going to school in the fall......She has help from her family with most of the planning, but I am not really sure what my responsibilities are and how to accomplish them....I know I am in charge of tuxedoes and flowers and a few other things that I probably haven%26#039;t realized yet....





I would just like some advice for wedding planning and what the husband (groom) is responsible for planning, how and where do I start!!!
Just engaged male, Need advice on wedding arrangements???

FlowersBirthday FlowersSympathy FlowersThat is great that you want to help and take the time to care. My fiance does not care about any details until the credit card comes. lol I started my wedding planning on weddingwire.com. There everything is organized and the guest list is easy to use. Most grooms are responsible for the guys tuxes and alcohol (if there is any). Flowers can be a tough one. You might want to trade something else for that job. Or try going to your local florist. They should have pictures of bouquets and arrangements that you can decide on. Depending on where you live and where she is getting her dress, most bridal shops offer discounts on the tuxes if a bridal gown is purchased within that company. Better to go there together for the tuxes or wait for her to tell you where to go. As for most decorations it is easier to work together so that you can compromise on one set item. Start watching whose wedding is it anyway or rich bride poor bride on the style network. They give you so many helpful hints.!
Reply:Everyone is different. When I got married my husband just came along for the ride. I pretty much did all of the planning because I wanted to. Some women aren%26#039;t like that though, if I were you I would talk to your fiance and ask her what exactly she would like for you to do to bring your day together. I%26#039;m sure she will be happy to know that your excited about it as well. As far as where to start...just take it one thing at a time. Start with tuxedos and once you get that taken care of move onto flowers and so on. I would make a checklist and just go down the line so it doesn%26#039;t get overwhelming. Good Luck and Congrats!!!!
Reply:tuxs get measurements for whoever needs them


matching,or else thatll look bad if not


and flowers go with the theme


and last but not least ask your fiance for her opinion because its her wedding as well


and congrats
Reply:**Random Thought: A really sweet first gesture would be to take her to a book store and get her a wedding planning book. That would make my heart melt.





I think it depends on the couple. My fiance is involved in EVERYTHING, somewhat even more than I am. We sat down and talked about what we expected from one another, I suggest that you two do that. Make a list of some basic important stuff to look into (food, music, decorations, photographer, videographer, cake, church) and perhaps you could take on one or two of those as your projects. Also ask if there is anything you could do to perhaps help her without it being too bad. I HATE talking on the phone so my fiance makes all the phone calls to set up appointments. It may not seem like a lot, but it%26#039;s huge to me. I am not that great at budget/excel stuff so he made up a budget using various sites like theknot and wedding channel.





Note from my Fiance: He says the hardest part is keeping me calm so just re-assure your fiance a lot, do little things to let her know you appreciate the work she is doing and be available.





Good luck!!!!
Reply:Here%26#039;s some ideas:





-Write a toast for the reception


-write vows if appliccable


-Don%26#039;t forget to write a little note or card for your wife to be to read before the ceremony (mabey a little gift too)


-Thank you gifts for the groomsmen


-Wedding transport if needed


-Be there to choose the wedding bands


-Honeymoon arrangements: Try and help with all the technical stuff like transportation and stuff


-Buy your wife to be some nice lingirie for the honeymoon, Surprise her with something sexy but tastefull.





Other than that be there for moral support, ask her what she needs help with and try to put some ideas on the table. Remember it%26#039;s your wedding to. Always remember to communicate with your bride.
Reply:Here is a checklist that I found online. I hope it helps.








Grooms Checklist





6 – 12 months


_____ Compile Guest list


_____ Decide on Wedding Budget with Brides Family


_____ Plan your honeymoon


_____ Purchase Brides Engagement ring


_____ Purchase Formal wear


_____ Select Bestman and ushers


_____ Set appointment with Officiant


_____ Update passport and visas











3 – 5 months


_____ If moving – find a new place to live


_____ Make reservations for honeymoon


_____ Select wedding rings


_____ Set appointment for Blood Test – if required


_____ Shop for honeymoon clothing


_____ Update Medical exams and immunization records


_____ With Fiancé – decide on Bridal Registry


_____ Plan bachelor party











1 – 2 months


_____ Apply for Marriage License


_____ Confirm all honeymoon itineraries


_____ Make reservations for rehearsal dinner


_____ Pick-up wedding rings and have them engraved


_____ Plan wedding date itinerary with bride


_____ Purchase gift for your bride


_____ Purchase gifts for your ushers %26amp; groomsmen


_____ Reserve accommodations for out-of –town guests


_____ Reserve Limousines or other transportation for yourself and the bridal parties











2 weeks


_____ Get your hair trimmed/styled


_____ Get your teeth cleaned


_____ Move your personal belongings to your new home


_____ Purchase travel checks











1 week


_____ Confirm rehearsal dinner with restaurant as well as wedding party


_____ Give final guest count to reception


_____ Pack for honeymoon











1 – 2 Days Before


_____ Pick – up tuxedo rentals


_____ Prepared Officiant fee in an envelope and assign to Bestman


_____ Get a good night rest!


_____ Day of the Wedding


_____ Give wedding ring to Bestman


_____ Final instruction to Officiant if any


_____ After the Wedding


_____ Help with thank you notes
Reply:Well there is a lot of places online and books that will tell you what a groom is to do but you don%26#039;t always have to go by those list. You can sit down with your fiance and find out what it is exactly she is expecting or wanting you to do.
Reply:OK sit down with her and work together. The two of you need to pick a color and get her imput on tuxs. Then go with the guys and check out the stlyes and colors to match your colors.


Make your side fo the guest list so you know how many people will be coming.loan